Crossing The Threshold Of Comfort

 Rock Climbing

I attended a conference this weekend. Three years ago, this was the first conference I attended specifically for trans people. Revisiting this moment for me each year is blissful. I connect with folks that have become good friends and understand the process many of us have or are going through in transition.

This year was different for many reasons. The conference has expanded their programming to be more inclusive of trans youth and transmasculine individuals and moved to a new location. For me though it was different because my work world and personal world crossed paths.

In my previous post, I discussed my level of being out vs not out in my role as an elementary teacher. I knew that someday in some way these two parts of my world would cross. In the past, this would have sent me through several panic attacks, sleepless nights, disgusting amounts of analyzing, etc…. Maybe it was the preparation or knowing that it was a possibility, but I think that had very little to do with it.

I’m chalking it up to being comfortable in my own skin and having a strong sense of self. My experience was full of short bursts of meaningful interactions with my colleagues being very respectful and appropriate while considering seeking answers of specific best practices. I’m so honored that I work for an employer who wants to educate themselves to be inclusive to all individuals in their community. As I headed home full of life and feeling connected to community and touched to see people living and working towards becoming their authentic selves, I remembered what I feared in the past of having to leave K-12 education having some really bad interactions with colleagues (in previous jobs), and wondering if I could find the right balance of out and advocacy for me. It’s never perfect, but what once was a high rock wall that seemed impossible to climb is now one that is manageable, but a project to become more efficient with your movements.

Advertisements

3 thoughts on “Crossing The Threshold Of Comfort

  1. I’m FTM and in the Ed Program at my College right now. I loved this post. I am out right now at my college and am struggling with what will happen if and when I come out to my potential employers as a teacher. As a student, they are tolerant. As a teacher, they seem to want to skin people alive around here. Advice?

    Like

  2. Thanks for your comment. I’m glad we’ve connected. I haven’t found too many trans individuals who are teachers in K-12 ed, but the number is slowly growing. I too struggled and continue to struggle with what level of out I could/want to be. I found that for me in the beginning of my transition it was simplest for me to go in as male and not disclose past my administration. I was lucky that my admin was OK with it because at the time I had no protection under the non-discrimination act. Now I do. I’d say be mindful of where you teach…. There is a ton more I can offer, but it’s probably best in an email. Feel free to send me one at evolvinggender@gmail.com.

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s